When it comes to men’s mental health, most people think about what to do once things start to fall apart. But looking after your mental health is something that can and should start well before that. Just like your physical health, it’s about what you do every day that keeps you well, not just what you do when you’re struggling. I want to talk through some tips here about how men (and all of us really) can take a more proactive approach to our wellbeing, as it is something worth talking about and looking after.
Keep the basics in check: Sleep, nutrition and movement are the foundation of good mental health. It sounds simple, but it’s where most people start to slip when life gets busy. Late nights, skipped meals and working through lunch all take a toll on your body and mood. Keeping a regular routine helps you stay balanced and more resilient to stress.
Movement and body image: Exercise is one of the best tools for managing stress and improving mood. But it’s easy for men to get caught up in training for appearance (chasing a certain size, shape or weight goal). Moving your body can just be about feeling better. Do it because it clears your head and boosts your energy, not because you’re trying to change your body. More men than ever are feeling pressure to look a certain way, which can lead to excessive exercise and disordered eating behaviours that often go unnoticed. If you find yourself constantly comparing your body to others or feeling guilty after eating, tell yourself that your body deserves nourishment and care, not criticism.
Stay connected: One of the biggest risks to men’s mental health is isolation. When life gets full with responsibilities, friendships often fall away. But connection is protective. Make time to see your mates, even briefly. Talk about what’s really going on, not just sport or work.
Talk early: Don’t wait until you’re in crisis to reach out. Talking to your GP, a psychologist, or a trusted friend can stop stress from building up. You don’t need to have something wrong to look after your mental health. Think of it as maintenance, the same way you’d service your car or go for a check-up.
Caring for yourself to care for others: When you feel rested and emotionally steady, you’re better able to show up for your partner, your kids, your mates, and your work. Looking after yourself isn’t just good for you, it’s good for everyone around you.
If you’re worried about yourself or a man in your life, reach out and check in. Ask how they’re really going and listen without judgment. Encourage them to talk to their GP or MensLine (1300 78 99 78) for support. I also have a new book coming out for men called Embracing You: An Improvement Guide to Body Image and Self-Love (Australian Academic Press).
Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish or weak, it’s smart. Being proactive about your mental health isn’t just about avoiding problems, it’s about making choices every day to prioritise your own health and wellbeing.
