Loneliness is something we all experience at some point in life, and I’m no exception. Even as a clinical psychologist, there have been times when I’ve felt disconnected or isolated, despite being surrounded by people. Loneliness isn’t just about being alone—it’s that deep feeling of not being emotionally connected to others. It can creep in during life changes, after a loss, or even when everything on the surface seems fine.

What many people don’t realise is just how common loneliness is. I see it in clients of all ages—young adults trying to find their place in the world, people navigating breakups or career changes, and older adults who feel left behind. Despite how connected we are through social media, more people than ever report feeling isolated. Life transitions—moving to a new place, starting a new job, or simply drifting apart from friends—can make loneliness even more intense. And the longer it lasts, the harder it can feel to break free from.

Loneliness has many causes. Sometimes it’s situational—maybe you’ve just moved and don’t know anyone, or your friends are busy with their own lives. Other times it comes from within—self-doubt, social anxiety, or feeling like you’re not “enough” can make it hard to reach out. Have you ever hesitated to message a friend because you didn’t want to seem needy? That thought occurs to many people. The modern world doesn’t help either—remote work and more online interaction have all made it harder to form deep, real-life connections.

For single people, loneliness can feel even more noticeable. Society puts so much pressure on romantic relationships, making it seem like being in one is the only way to feel connected. But I remind my clients that connection isn’t just about having a partner. Strong friendships, supportive family, and even small everyday interactions—like chatting with a neighbour or sharing a laugh with a colleague—can be just as meaningful.

But the good news is that loneliness isn’t permanent. The first step is recognising it without judgement—it’s a normal human experience, not a personal failing. Instead of focusing on how many people you have around you, think about the quality of your connections. A deep conversation with one person can be more fulfilling than a hundred social media interactions.

Finding activities that bring you joy—like exercise, creative hobbies, or volunteering—can also help. These not only improve your mood but often create opportunities to meet like-minded people. Even small steps, like reaching out to a friend or joining a group, can make a difference.

Most importantly, be kind to yourself. Loneliness can make you feel like you’re not important or that no one cares, but that’s not true. Everyone feels lonely at times, but with small, intentional changes, you can feel more connected, supported, and at peace in your own company.